Have you made peace with your past? If so, congratulations. However, if you are mired in the quicksand of regret, shame, and guilt, it's time to plan your escape. How are you able to do so? By accepting what has been and by trusting God for what will be.
It is also easy for people who lack any critical thinking and intellectual integrity easily jump on the bandwagon without any context of understanding. For instance, if you have never worked with victims of abuse in any form - you do not understand the depth of fear that rests upon them. It is heartbreaking and one feels completely helpless - regardless of whether or not one is mandated to report abuse.
What I eventually came to realize is that for the longest time - I had allowed myself to be unequally yoked with family members who continued to persist in their own toxic attitudes and behaviors.
Attempting a recovery program without having a spiritual awakening and without having a power greater than oneself leaves one paralyzed in their active substance use or dysfunctional behavior. Denies the reality of one being humble, contrite in spirit, and seeking liberation from our own problems and situations.
The blessed opportunities my own recovery has given me is to discover what I enjoy doing. Getting back to doing those things that bring me a sense of peace, a sense of hope, and helps me live out my own sense of purpose. Among those things are fishing, writing, and personal scripture study. Establishing these as part of my life has helped me gain greater appreciation for who I am and increased my sense of purpose.
The scales fell from my eyes due to the sudden realization of truth about how dysfunctional my father's drinking had impacted me - after a long period of not understanding or being deceived about it. True sight revealed not only the nature of how dysfunction affected me - it also revealed the truth of how lost and abandoned I felt.
True and authentic forgiveness begins when we learn to love ourselves. To see who I am in the eyes of my Heavenly Father. To love Him first and foremost gives me the ability to in turn love others as I love myself. Because he is mercy and just in forgiving me - I too need to be merciful and just in forgiving others
I have a firm sense of worth, liberty, and sense of belonging because of Christ and the love of my Heavenly Father
The Light of Christ is the very brightness and glory of the Father - illuminating and guiding me throughout my life. And as the light pervades the darkness, the Holy Spirit continually exposes those areas that are darken by sin and transgression. Allowing me opportunity to bring those things forth and seek the mercy and grace of my Heavenly Father. Christ being my advocate who is ready to forgive my sin. To cleanse me from all matter of unrighteousness (1 John 1:9).
I learned that to fully heal from the wounds of childhood experiences - I must embrace and speak my truth without feeling a sense of betrayal, blame, or fear. To speak my truth means embracing what I have experienced as part of my heritage and legacy. Accept the truth that my parents carried on the legacy of their own dysfunction learned growing in a home environment lacking care, validation, autonomy, and healthy perceptions and perspectives.
How is it that my words do not give Him the glory due His name? how is it that I do not verbally credit Him with every blessing? Perhaps I don't want to sound overly pious. Perhaps I've noticed how obnoxious our society perceives people who constantly speak of God. I've allowed present cultural influence intimidate me into never mentioning His name. In many of my circumstances my Heavenly Father remains unglorified.
The solution in getting unstuck from our grief is attending meetings, seeing a counselor, and giving ourselves permission to let go. The willingness to allow ourselves to be vulnerable lessens our need to resist and lower those defenses. It is difficult in the beginning. And when we willingly allow ourselves to be vulnerable, keep ourselves in a community and fellowship of others, we begin to grow in trust with God, ourselves, and others around us.
Often times I feel like I am not receiving what I desire from others because I am not willing to allow myself to be open enough to receiving. It's as if I have a little shop set up for people to come in and yet maintain locked doors.
I appeal to you therefore, brothers,by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.~ Romans 12:1, ESV ~ Worship is not part of the Christian life, it is the Christian life~ Gerald Vann ~ I have come to learn that a … Continue reading Worship is Our Act of Service
The Gospel of Jesus Christ demands that I focus my attention toward healing and restoring my soul. Not toward analyzing another. For, when I look to another and ask how they are able to justify their behavior - I am walking in a spirit of condemnation. Another individual's life and behavior does not help me focus on my own struggles and difficulties.
There appears to be some aversion to attending, participating in, and following the 12-steps of sober support meetings. The underlying question: does a 12-step program help people achieve sobriety? In Chapter 2, of the second edition of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, we read the following introductory statement: WE, of Alcoholics Anonymous, know thousands … Continue reading Does a 12-step based recovery program work?
For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit. ~ 1 Corinthians 12:12-13, ESV ~ The greatest … Continue reading Many sides made whole in Christ
Where it all begins One of the most beautiful passages of scripture is that of John 3:18-21. Jesus is conversing with Nicodemus. In this conversation, we are intimately taught that Christ is the light that has come into the world. Yet, many of us rather remain in the darkness, avoiding the light. Because we remain … Continue reading Deep Inner Work is the Heart of Christian based Recovery
Today's reading: 1 Nephi Chapter 1 ...I, Nephi, will show unto you that the tender mercies of the Lord are over all those whom he hath chosen, because of their faith, to make them mighty even unto the power of deliverance. ~ 1 Nephi 1:20 ~ A mindful and spiritually focused recovery program empowers an … Continue reading Mighty Power Unto Deliverance
Now may the God of peace himself sanctify you completely, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. He who calls you is faithful; he will surely do it. ~ 1 Thessalonians 5:23-24, ESV ~ The process of becoming a whole person, becoming a true person, and finding spiritual enlightenment … Continue reading Becoming whole and well through Christ
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. ~ Ephesians 4:31-32, ESV ~ The greatest obstacle to serenity, happiness, and successful recovery is being stuck in the mire of bitterness, … Continue reading Looking up and moving on
There are 3 Key elements of simple spiritual growth within the Christian life. Whether you are a new believer in Christ, estranged yourself from the Christian life, or are experiencing a drought in your spiritual journey - these simple principles will ignite a fresh spiritual growth. The central point is to come to know the … Continue reading 3 key elements of spiritual growth for authentic Christian living
Addiction is an appetite of desire. It's powerful grip holds the individual captive. Our most inner drive moves us to hunger and thirst after alcohol and/or drugs. The greater our hunger and thirst, the deeper we sink into the abyss. In order to recover from this hold our addiction has on us, we must begin … Continue reading Hungering and Thirsting after Sobriety
In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; Fear the Lord and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your body and refreshment to your bones.. ~ Proverbs 3:6-8, NASB ~ Are you at peace with the direction of your recovery … Continue reading At Peace with your purpose